My Statement
There has been a disconnection created between the life we see through our screen and the life we actually live. These series of images are the dating experience through the eyes of a millennial. The images have been composed to replicate an amazon shopping experience. Shopping on-line for a partner with an incredible return policy called ghosting. These negative dating trends we do to each other has not only been accepted by society, but has desensitized the harmful impact it causes by turning it into humor. The phrase "I really like you" has become an adaptation to protect our own image from the fear of being seen as a fool that falls in love. Let's face it, the ones that run away from their emotions are seen as much stronger than the ones who risks feeling them.
We chase what we can't have, then ask ourselves how we got hurt. We have no control over someone's affection, we can only experience it. Being on our phones, waiting for a reply, checking to see if they’ve seen our message and taking it personal if they don’t respond. Checking their page, story, post to see if they are talking to someone else. All of these habits feed into our own fear. When in reality this fear isn't going anywhere. We can only choose to feed into it, run away from it or take a chance and see what happens.
We live avoiding attachment because it's one of the biggest pains we can feel. What we end up doing is the opposite of what we feel. We get a message and want to reply right away, we wait to reply so we don’t look desperate. We go on a date and want to post it right away, but make sure they don’t come out in the picture. We continue this cycle until we get tired of our own games.
Afraid to see in others what we are afraid to see in ourselves. We fixate on others flaws to distract us from our own. That’s why when someone is uninterested in us, we have the urge to get their attention, to prove to ourselves there is nothing wrong with us. In the same way, when we see someone is easily happy with us we reject it because we tell ourselves, they don’t know me, they easily fall for anyone. It's not until we are happy with what we see in the mirror that we will stop chasing approval and start looking for what we really want.
